I’m not really sure if I just asked a loaded question there.
Since my younger sister got married before me, naturally friends and family have asked when my turn would be. I have scoffed at this question several times and replied, “Why would I want to spend that much money on ONE day? Everything is so overpriced when it comes to weddings.” I have told my mom time and time again that I would prefer to have a civil wedding and possibly a reception at a small restaurant. I had even pondered the idea of eloping in Santorini. We would be married and not have to deal with all the drama and stress that comes along with planning a wedding. Sure, my parents and sister would probably be real upset with me at first but they would have gotten over it. Eventually.
I’m not exactly sure how this happened, why this happened or what caused me to change my mind but……..
I WANT TO GET MARRIED. TRADITIONAL STYLE.
WTF?!?!? Is probably what my close friends and my coworkers would say when I tell them. I have been repeating over and over again, it’s the same sh*t with weddings.
I can already picture them saying things such as “I knew it.” “I told you so.” “Hypocrite.”
I think I was a closet bride all along, but have been trying so hard to be all nonchalant with it. I really HATE talking about my feelings and things such as getting married. I wanted to make it seem like I didn’t care and didn’t want to put any pressure on him. I guess the pressure just built up and then exploded. Then we started talking about rings and things and how I didn’t need a ring. I didn’t want a ring. You don’t need a ring to be engaged. Why are guys dumb enough to spend 1-2 months salary on a ring? Engagement rings are just a gimmick pushed by DeBeers.
Check out the following video on engagement rings and how they’re considered a scam: (WARNING: contains inappropriate language and mature themes)
And yet I somehow became part of the masses in wanting a ring. Heck, I even automatically ask the bride to be to see the engagement ring. I couldn’t get the proposal because we had already had several discussions about marriage and agreed we were going to get married, but weren’t sure when. I sort of proposed as a joke via BBM and it went something like this, “Hey want to get married on [insert 1st choice date] or [insert 2nd choice date].” Good news is he said YES!
I told my partner that I would tell people that I didn’t need a ring to get engaged. I would tell people that they were a waste of money and that the wedding bands were more meaningful. Neither of us are conventional or romantic, so I don’t need a ring.
He didn’t need to “PUT A RING ON IT”.
THEN I thought:
Would that make him look bad? Or look like he couldn’t afford one/was too cheap/a douchebag?
Us telling people we’ve decided to get married, therefore we are engaged, yet we have nothing to show as solid proof?
Would I get sick of telling people that I don’t need or want a ring when deep down I do?
I could only joke about wear a Ring Pop or onion ring (Simpsons Reference) or Ringolo for so long
How come in this day and age, the guy doesn’t get a proposal? I’m sure he would like a nice watch or a wallet.
We have started searching for rings. I think my eyeballs grew to the size of golf balls when I saw the prices on some of these rocks. Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, but it seems like they’re a guy and his wallet’s worse nightmare. Silly as this may seem, but I even offered to pay for part of the ring. He flat out said NO and said he would be willing to spend several grand on it for a decent quality one.
Yikes. That’s like a down payment on a car.
I’m looking into a sapphire engagement ring for several reasons:
- It’s my birthstone
- My favourite colour is blue
- It takes care of “something blue” part to wear on your wedding day
- I could say it’s like a more budget friendly version of Kate Middleton’s engagement ring
- Might as well try to keep some of my unconventional style by not having a diamond
- Sapphires are considered to be rarer AND cheaper (woohoo!) than diamonds.
I suppose engagement rings are some sort of solid proof, if your word doesn’t seem enough. And I’m not going to lie, they were very pretty and I did enjoy trying them on. Guess I’m more girly than I thought. This whole process would be so much easier if I had gotten married in 1930.
And so the madness begins..sort of…
How do you feel about engagement rings? Yay or nay?